a change in plans

this morning
i woke up
to a great article
it was about boy/girl friendships
i got it on facebook
from a really good friend from home
it was filled with LOTS of incite
and had great advice
about boy/girl friendships
i will attach it at the end
in order to spread the knowledge
i read it to my roommates today
and they said every part of it
is an exact description of me and him
i had class today with him
and i didn't sit by him
OR say hi
it was sooo hard
but i did it through the Lord's strength
he helped me to ignore
and to avoid him all together
after class
i was talking to a friend on the path
then he went past and play kicked me
WHILE SINGING
and i didn't say anything
i just punched him in the arm
and moved on
i want to thank my friend
you are super sweet
and it's because of your article
that i have decided i'm done
if he wants to be my friend
he can SHOW me that
but until then i'm doing my own thing
i have guys who say they will
be my friends and WILL be my friends
they are there for me
and will be my friends
they talk me through boy things
they care about me
instead of caring just about themselves
it's not fair
for me to compare him to others
but they look better in my eyes..
so it's hard not to
but now i have decided
i'm not going to talk to him
he can come to me
we will be friends when
he decides to BE a friend
pray the Lord keeps me strong


here's the article from my friend:
Quite a few young women have expressed frustration to me about the “politics of guy friendships”, wishing that they could simply shrug off all concern and enjoy the same closeness with their guy-friends that they share with their female friends. But even though you might feel a close connection with a guy friend, it’s important to stay guarded in both your thoughts and your actions toward him. It is all too easy, especially for girls, to begin giving away the kind of intimacy and affection that is meant to be saved for your future spouse. It’s more than possible to enjoy close guy friendships without violating the sacredness of your future marriage relationship – but it doesn’t happen by accident. It takes prayer, focus, and help from the Spirit of God.


Ask the Spirit of God to be your guide – if you submit your every thought, action, and conversation to Him, He will guide and direct you; offering caution when it is needed and giving you freedom when it is needed.


Before my relationship with Eric ever began, I developed close friendships with several godly young men. Up until then, most of my interaction with the opposite sex had been flirtatious, teasing, based on physical attraction, the challenge of getting a guy’s attention, or the hope of a romantic fling developing. But once I gave God the “pen” of my love story, I made a decision not to pursue guys in that way and to put a stop to the flirtatious relationships I had become so used to. I wasn’t sure how to have a healthy, Christ-focused friendship with a guy. I prayed that God would show me His pattern. I found that the first step was entering into friendships with like-minded young men; young men who were not primarily focused on the opposite sex, but on Jesus Christ. I hadn’t met many young men that fell into that category, but as I prayed about it, God began to bring a small handful of them into my life. Instead of teasing, joking, and flirting when we were together, we spent time encouraging each other spiritually and discoursing about God’s Word. They truly became like brothers to me, pointing me continually toward Christ and not toward themselves.


In reality, a guy/girl friendship – especially one that is not headed toward marriage – is not meant to become as intimate and close as other friendships, no matter what kind of “connection” you may feel. Once God brings your future spouse into your life, your one-on-one friendships with the opposite sex will need to diminish, being replaced by “couple friendships” instead. And it is far less painful to make that transition when deep, personal, intimate friendship bonds have not been forged.


If there is a possibility in your mind that a friendship with a member of the opposite sex might end up as something more, it is still wise to be careful until you know for sure. God is perfectly capable of nudging a relationship forward in His own time and way. But in the meantime, the best thing you can do is to live as if your heart, mind, and body still belong to someone else.


i pray you are all doing well